I want adivorce after 30 years of marriage. HE is trying to use a do it yourself with a paralegal.?
We have 3 children, ( 2 minor, 11 and 17), our home is our biggest asset. We have a lot of debt with judgments against us. He has hidden other property and other assets, ( motorcycles, vehicles), and other items of value by them getting them out of his name so I and the courts can t touch them. I must seek legal aid from our local county, as I have no money to defend myself. My husband is trying to make sure I get nothing, when I am the one initiating the divorce, because of his excessive alcoholism, physical and verbal abuse towards the children and me. There is a documented case with DCF against him, for abuse and drug use that my son’s school reported . The case was closed with no further action. We need to file for bankruptcy and I desperately need guidance in the right direction awaiting legal aid to assist me. Someone please show me the light…
He seems anxious to get me to sign his do it yourself divorce, yet he refuses to leave the house, and wants to stay while all this escalates.
Forget about what his cheap butt is trying to do. YOU need a lawyer and you better get one to help you out here. Your problems are too complex for answers here. Let him get a diy paralegal whatever. You need the real deal in the tumultuous times ahead for you. You need someone with real knowledge to help you manuver the tricky turns your hubby has in mind. Time to stand up girl and get ready for a fight you have kids and you need to stop the wimpy act and get beefed up to fight for your kids and your right. He is doing exactly what you think He wants to leavee you destitute if he can. He has hidden assets and he wants to be certain youdo not get any of it. GET A LAWYER.
August 18th, 2010 at 12:19 amyou are on the right way….get legal help and do what ever you can to make sure you and your children are safe…divorce and bankruptcy take some time, so be patient. You could probably get a restraining order on your husband to keep him away if you wish…good luck
August 18th, 2010 at 12:19 amDo not sign anything he gives you. Obtain your own attorney…You can probably find one that will make him pay for your legal charges.
August 18th, 2010 at 12:19 amNot much you can do about it. Sounds as if you should have left years ago. I dont see any light …..other than freedom and possible alimony/child support.
August 18th, 2010 at 12:19 amif u need to file for bankruptcy i do not see any problem about assets – after u re bankrupt u have no assets – bank has all of them. so what do u even have to argue about?
August 18th, 2010 at 12:19 amIs he planning to use the Smith and Wesson do it yourself divorce ? I understand it’s becoming quite popular as it seems to eliminate any argument over property settlements.
August 18th, 2010 at 12:19 amIf you are leaving because of abuse, you should do ok. Dont sign anything, get a good solicitor.
August 18th, 2010 at 12:19 amhe wants you to sign the divorce papers cos they will screw you over and then he will stay in the house cos im pretty sure it will be his after and then he can hold it over your head and control you. dont sign ANYTHING. get a lawyer and dont do or say or write or sign anything until then
August 18th, 2010 at 12:19 amit is against the law for the paralegal to be giving legal advice.
August 18th, 2010 at 12:19 amalways use your own lawyer for a divorce.