I think I love my wife?
I want to start off saying, I love my wife with all of my heart and soul… But lately she has become a completely different person ever since we had our baby. The lack of communication is there, she wants to leave me and the baby at the house on the weekends while she goes out and drinks. She says she HAS to get out of the area and do things with other people because she has some "issues". She pretends like she wants nothing to do with me anymore. All our conversations are, anymore, is her nagging at me about anything. I know she gripes at me because I don’t get overtime or I don’t have a good enough job to support her and her wants and how the job I have don’t make as much as the last job I had. I was a high roller at a factory before the place went bankrupt, total change of lifestyle. She constantly puts me down, I can’t help what happen and I do all that I can for my family, that’s all I can do for now because there is no jobs out there! She has guy friends, that are my friends, over at the house when I’m not there. She has other guys paying our bills, we haven’t had sex in 7 months and at the same time I find a vibrator in her drawer that I didn’t buy for her. I want my marriage to work because I remember what we used to be like before she turned all crazy. She doesn’t want to get up and help by getting a job and contributing to the house hold. All she wants to do it party, it’s like she doesn’t even care. I don’t know what to do anymore and I find myself really noticing the little lady down the road. She’s 23 and I’m 37, she’s a neighbor and a family friend and HOT! I’m friends with her husband and she used to be friends with my wife… before she went all nutty. Her young beauty seems to ease my insecurity and sadness that I have, though I know it’s wrong and at the same time I don’t think I care. They’re having some problems themselves because he got drunk one night and told my wife that she had awesome t*ts. I don’t know if I have a shot with her, but I don’t think I’m that ballsy to go that far. I think what it is is that I can have a decent conversation with someone without them yelling at me. She is ideal woman material, we have all the same interest and we have great conversations. I really started feeling this way about a week ago when I stopped by to ask how her husband likes his new job. I found myself going there before work and just talking to her. But I don’t want to have the hots for the neighbor, I want to have the hots for my wife and I don’t know how to talk to her without her yelling at me every single time. I have tried on several occasions and it seems like nothing helps. I just need some advice from an outsiders point of view that isn’t emotionally involved with me. I don’t know where else to turn. Thanks for listening!
I have asked her to go to the doctor to perhaps get on some depression pills but she declares there is nothing wrong with her and I can’t make her go if she doesn’t want to. I’ve tried to approach her, calmly, but she gets mad and uses it as an excuse to leave. I know it’s emotionally cheating, the way I feel about my neighbor, but I can’t help it with the circumstances I’m under. I never said I wanted to leave my wife, that’s why I asked this question because I want to try and save my marriage and I have been trying for almost a year. Yeah, if I were to start a relationship with the neighbor like that I’m pretty sure she would nag… but not like this. She atleast has a job and is finishing up nursing school, but I don’t even think she’s interested in me anyway. She’s young and beautiful, I’m pretty sure she can get someone better and younger. I guess what you can say is I’m crushing on her because my wife is acting crazy. I like the ideas on the mommy classes, though it’s hard to fin
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