Hello everyone. My dad used to work on a company in my country. But the company went bankrupt and he had to look somewhere else. He went to Dubai, United Arab Emirates, and they gave him the job. He wants us to move there(of course hes not forcing us) but he would like us to be together. I really want to go.
So I met this cute girl and were dating. The thing is that I dont want to hurt her because she seems to be really into me. I like her too.
It is not 100% sure yet, but it is very probable.
If I go, I would go on August, 4 months from now.
In the meantime, I would really like to have a relationship with this girl. But she is not officialy my girlfriend yet.

What do I do? I do not want to hurt her. Please, Any advice?
Thank you

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I am not making as much as I did a few years ago but I have more debt than ever. I can’t pay all my credit cards and I’m already getting calls from collection agencies. It’s starting to stress me out. My girlfriend and I are thinking about getting married but I don’t feel right about it – not unless I can pay back some of this debt. She has no debt and has complained about mine. Pls help.

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My girlfriend and I have been dating for four years and we feel like it’s about time we moved out together as we have just finished college. For a variety of reasons, my parents really don’t like her. My view is (being the oldest) they view me as the ‘perfect child’ and that nobody is ever good enough for their precious son. They’re both lawyers and they rant and rave about how I could do ’so much better’ because my GPA was ‘much higher’ than hers, that we have ‘nothing in common’, that her parents are ‘rednecks’, that she is ‘disrespectful’ and *gasp* she is older than me. I think my parents are stuck in a time warp: not dating someone because of their GPA is beyond pathetic (and my girlfriend is very smart too!). While my passion is politics and hers is music, we still have loads in common (eg movies, restaurants, good food, health & fitness, travelling, similar careers) – we’re crazy about each other and talk about each other constantly. Her parents are a bit weird, but my parents are just as weird in their own eccentric and old-fashioned ways. They’re also very culturally conservative, so they don’t understand practical jokes at all – we make practical jokes all the time on each other (eg she created a fake newspaper article that the company I’m working for has gone bankrupt and must sack all its employees), it’s just they see the ones she plays on me but I don’t tell them the ones I play on her because they’d berate me for it (eg pretending to be questioning my sexuality). And despite her being a whole 18 months older than me (shock horror! lol), my parents are absolutely adamant that men should only date women younger. I think my parents are just really old-fashioned and stuck in their ways, but I still feel the need to please them (as stupid as that sounds). I love my girlfriend and we’re definitely moving in together, no questions asked, but I wish my parents approved! How can I win over my parents’ approval? More to the point, how do I move on without their approval?

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I’ve always wished i grew up in Britain or in Chicago because of the life different types of people culture or all that, big cities and stuff. and as of recent every time i think about it i start breaking down in tears how I’ve wasted 15 yrs of my life stuck in backwoods homes with such a large family that moving to a big city would my parents to go bankrupt. i’m literally crying over this, and not just this i start crying over, if i think about my life after school-i cry,if i think about how my girlfriend dumper me last year-i cry, if i think of inspirational things and social stuff i-get shaken up. i feel like i need support here, and soeone to share my life with and someone to lean on, i really need help but don’t know where to get it, pleases help me. if you need talk to me separately about this,which i would like, pleases email at nunkershift@Gmail.com.

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I am way over my head in a auto loan and see bankruptcy as the only way out.
Now the problem is, I am also on the lease of my girlfriend’s car.
I need to know what will happen with it.

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I believe in giving, but in the case of going practically bankrupt and almost pennyless, how can you go through this period without having to steal to offer someone of worth to someone of worth? I have a girlfriend, and she is not demanding at all. Bills have caught up to me, and now I don’t know how I will get her what I promised!

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Where to begin…you know I accept the fact that life is unfair but WTF did I do to deserve to be in the situation I’m in now. Well my life sucks and I have no clue how to make it any better. This story starts about 6 years when I gave up on feeling anything and realized I am depressed but I did not let it get to me because I have a vanity that burns greater than anything, it consider it my most prized possession that no one can take away. So I even accept the fact that I’m depressed but I move on and put a mask on that I’m just great and nothing wrong. Anyway my rich grandmother died and left all the grand kids 0,000 but she put it in a account with a trustee and my uncle who was the trustee took all the money and left the country. So I’m out 0,000 and on top of that my grandmother had a family company that my other uncle stole and bankrupted and took all the money to himself and left my mother and other uncle with nothing from that. Aside form easy money my mother was a real estate broker and the market dried up 6 years ago and now we are poor. On top of all that my parents got a divorce when I was 13. Let’s fast forward, to 2009. I had few friends in high school, never had a girlfriend and hated most of the people there. I finished high school and my parents have no money for school and no one will cosign with me for a student loan so I am forced to go to a community college even tho I am much smarter than that. Also I live in the suburbs so I can’t walk anywhere and got no car and can’t a job because I got no ride. Also the job market is awful and it’s so hard to find a job. The money I saved over the years I used to pay for my classes and books with no help form anyone. My mother was not getting paid on time at her old job and she foreclosed on the house and we have to get out by next month to a apartment. I am 19 and I feel my life passing me by without even living and that makes me very depressed because I am very nice person who will go out of the way to help someone and do charity work at my church sometimes. The fact that I could have had it all with that 0,000 is the biggest slap in the face ever. So everyone else is busy doing their own thing looking out for themselves and no one care about me. IDK I hope things get better, any help or input would be nice.

Also I think I kinda ugly too so any self improvement tip are welcomed, sorry for it being so long but I feel a lot better having all this off my chest.
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My kitty, who is less than 8 weeks old, stopped breathing today. I found him in his cat bed, non-responsive to any type of contact and researched how to do cat CPR and resuscitated him successfully about a half hour ago.

Before I post my question please take note: I’M LIVING BELOW THE POVERTY LINE. If you even think about posting a disparaging comment about how I’m being inhumane, understand that I took my girlfriend’s cat to the vet’s office multiple times and we got raped out of money that we desperately needed only for the vet to put one measly SPLINT on our cat and give him antibiotics that did virtually nothing and acted as placebos. So with my cat I have to be my cat’s vet, for the sake of not going BANKRUPT.

All I’m asking of anyone who has any type of veterinary experience (and is willing to provide advice, pro bono- FOR A CHANGE)- is: what would help my cat start breathing again normally? He’s resting in his pet bed currently. He was breathing hard and shaking every other few seconds shortly after being resuscitated but he’s somewhat calm now. I’m planning on a sleepless night in order to ensure that he doesn’t stop breathing again and/or die.

Respectful answers ONLY. Again, I can’t afford to take him to the vet. I’m not RICH and don’t have money for groceries, let alone ANOTHER ,000 for vet bills.
I think it’s safe to assume that you’re not a veterinarian OR a vet tech since you have no clue what the hell you’re talking about. Condescension isn’t an answer, nor is it appreciated. I am unemployed and my internet and bills/rent in general are paid for by what little money I get monthly from unemployment, all the while I try to attain some type of employment in order to avoid homelessness. I bought my pc before I became unemployed, so do kindly go f*** yourself for insinuating something like that. I adopted this cat recently from some douchebag who raised him and his brothers and sisters outdoors. I didn’t think that anything would come of it because my girlfriend and I combed the kitty for fleas and made sure he was (at least so we thought) a healthy guy. He was in my office, laying in his pet bed, out of it and I STILL am vexed as to why.

Aside from this abrasive albeit obnoxious jerk of a woman, does anyone else have any type of HELPFUL advice? PLEASE?
@The Cake Girl: Cats are expensive? REALLY? Should I scan and post the vet bills online that I paid alongside my girlfriend for HER cat which comes up to a grand total of 00 (+). That was money I had backed up in case I couldn’t find a job by the way. So you and your predecessor can both go to hell. I knew cats were expensive, I just didn’t foresee all the godforsaken emergencies we’ve been through within the scope of our first five months of owning pets

@Josh: We called a vet already and they weren’t helpful at all. Aside from wanting to setup an appointment to rape us out of money (because like any proper American medical office- THAT’S WHAT THEY SPECIALIZE IN), they refused to get a vet on the line to give us some kind of helpful answer.

Thank you for at least being kind enough not to insult me @Josh. The two women who preceded you didn’t read the description beneath my question where I tried to emphasize to the umpteenth degree THAT I’M POOR. Tact, people, tact.

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I’m a 24 year old california resident.

My father started a credit profile on my social security when i was 13 on a fake name. I caught him when checking my credit report. He paid all the debt off, but what I had left was an extremely good credit score when i was 18. i applied and applied for credit cards when i became 18 to collect airline miles. i collected nearly 800,000 airline miles through that and I did some amazing travelling.

i had a good income coming in, but then my business crashed but slightly recovered, however, my girlfriend is a shopaholic, and I kept buying her stuff. i bought five new cars in my life. i’m 24. i just graduated college. i have 8,000 in debt. I have an income of about 00 per month after taxes which is really good, but most of my money is going to debts, and I have to live at home with parents and have an ok living. I look at my minimum payment warnings, and they say it will take 32 years to pay off.

I have three options. Option 1 is to not pay. Being self employed, I have the ability to dodge collectors and court actions especially since I can go to another country. I meet the requirements to get permanent residency at Spain, UK, or Canada. I can make the same amount of money anywhere. I can probably even stay here in California, and get away since I have foreign bank accounts.

My other option is to settle my debts, but I don’t know what amount card companies will settle for.

My other option is to keep paying the debts on time, but it will take 32 years to pay off.

I can also do bankruptcy, but given statue of limitations, and the ability to not pay bills, I rather just hide than to declare bankruptcy publically.

I’m also worried that my parents will find out about this. How do I explain 168,000 dollar debt? – What if they ask me to do something that requires me to run my credit. All I can do is put a freeze on my credit report so nobody can check. I also can rent an apt right now with the good credit I have and stay in it until my credit recovers. I see no reason for moving in the future. I’m young, and I’m sure I can stay in an apt until my credit recovers which can take up to seven years.Sometimes, I’m worried about my parents finding out, and I want to commit suicide.
i have no morals. atheist. i believe in helping others so i can benefit back myself in some way. i don’t do it for the goodness of my heart cuz i don’t believe in it.

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Two months ago I maxed out all my credit cards and opened an unsecured personal loan because I needed cash for family emergency. Now I have approximately ,000 debts from credit card companies and bank (all unsecured). After one month, I couldn’t afford to make the payments. For my situation, I don’t think I am able to payoff all the debt. What are my options now? When would the credit card company sue me? Can they garnish my salary? If the debt transfer to collection company, how much can I bargain off for a lump sum payment? Should I settle the payment myself or go to debt consolidation company? How many years the bad record would stay on my credit report?

I live in California. I’m working full time with ,000 annual salary. The only property I own is a free-and-clear car (2007). I might able to borrower ,000 from my girlfriend if a lump sum payment is offered.

Please answer as much as you can. Your help is much appreciated. Sincerely thanks.

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Well I have had this friend for a long time. Like 3 months. Recently like two weeks ago he got a girlfriend. I don’t like her she may be pretty and have a perfect body and all but to me she is plain stupid. The other day when we went to the beach she recommended me an exercise for my cellulites. I was so mad I pushed her and then I went up to everyone and told them what she had told me privately. She’s a mean bitch she knows I work out. Also the other day there were about 5 of us playing monopoly and she made me go bankrupt so I grabbed the board and smashed it to the wall. This bitch thinks she can get to me and that I will stop talking to her. I’ve seen her kissing him like I’m not there. She should think about others. My friend should see she is just ruining our lives. Before this were talked so much on the phone and did many activities together but now he’s blinded by her. I think she may have done some witchcraft or something. How can I know that for sure? How can I proof to my friend that she is not the one for him.
Yall can go and trow yourselves from a 7 story building. I’m not stalking nor I’m jealous. It’s her it is all her. If you wanna take her side fine but I’m telling you it is her. She shows no respect and she’s a mean ugly skank.

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I am beginning to regret going to college, it seems the only thing I have attained from it, is debt. When I went to school I was allured to the dream of being an airline pilot. I finally got my pilot’s license, but it got to expensive, so I switched to Aviation Management. I am so depressed and mad at myself for letting this happen, and it seems like there is no way out. A few times I forgot to fill out the FAFSA so I had to take out loans to cover the expenses, or I was late getting it in and got no money.

Here’s where I am at:
1 Loan for ,000 (Monthly Payments of 476/mo); 1 Loan for 620 (Monthly Payments of 128); 1 Loan for 00 (Monthly Payments of 50), and Credit Card Debt of about 00. So I have loans totaling 420.

I also have a car payment, cell phone, however I pay no rent, but my grandparents will soon be asking for that.

I just got a new job that pays me 000 per year. So if I don’t put anything into savings I can pay off my loans in about 4 years, however when you begin to figure in my other expenses it’s more like 7 years.

Consolidation is not really an option, because the 000 is an “Education Alternative Loan”, it’s not a federal loan. The 00 loan is a no interest loan. And the 620 is a direct federal loan.

-My dilemma is that, I have a girlfriend that I want to begin a life with. I wish to get an apartment with her maybe in the next year or so. And I want to marry her.

Situation 1- Do I put no money into savings and just tackle the loans head on? I will have no money for retirement or a down payment on a house.

Situation 2- I put some money aside into savings, and it will take longer to pay off?

Situation 3- Declare bankruptcy if I can?

I apologize for this taking so long, but I don’t know what to do. Thank you for your help.

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