Since we moved in (about 11 months), we’ve had our next door neighbor (zero lot) constantly harass us. He yells for hours on end between our properties with all kinds of racial slurs about how our types aren’t allowed in this country (I’m Jewish and my fiance is Vietnamese – He is African-American), threatening violence in very descriptive ways (stab you both in the heart with my knife and strangle your f*in dog), and even spray-painted a Swastika on the community sidewalk. These are nearly daily experiences and we have had the police out several times.

Police have been out at least a dozen times for this (not just myself calling), domestic disturbances, etc, and NOTHING is ever done. The police don’t care unless someone gets injured – and say there isn’t much we can do. In front of the police he even said that if we have him arrested he was going to shoot us in the heads when he gets out – yet the police aren’t taking it serious and won’t allow me to press charges when I asked they do for assault and trespassing. Even with Police as witness, they say I need it on video.

The H.O.A. and Builder says their hands are tied, and refuse to do anything and we feel stuck.

I really hope this great community can give sound, legal advice as to what we can do about this problematic and nuisance neighbor.

I really wish we could move, but we just purchased. If we move, it would cost us over K plus tax losses – and that would completely bankrupt us – with no place to live. We did interview him before we bought and he was super nice – but see that he just wanted to not have a vacant prop next to him – which would hurt his prop value.

The man seems mentally unstable and his threats are becoming more and more violent. At first it was the typical F*you, but now he is being very descriptive about how he wants to harm us. What I listed above is the most tame things I can mention without being censored – he has even said he was going to make my "chin$ B!t$$ suck his ****, while strangling her" and making me watch before he kills us both. He is absolutely dangerous and if he does have some mental disorder, makes him even more dangerous. – but of course, I don’t have this on video, so it’s our word (with witnesses) against his.

And when we do gang up, he says we’re just calling the police because he’s black and then the police back-off and leave. Then he continues with the violent threats.
Unfortunately, we can’t get a restraining order since it is zero-lot and the police said that they can’t enforce it even if we convinced a judge + he can repeal it too because of the zero-lot issue.

Also, we can’t move, because we would be homeless and bankrupt because of losses, taxes, commissions, etc.

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BTW the headline was sorta overreactive but i really am scared

alright read my previous post first-

Im joyful friendly have lots of friends and seem fine, but down below im a wreck. I need help from someone who can understand and not judge me, I dont know if the school counsler is supposed to deal with these things. I have gone bankrupt, my mom passed away(main part of why im bawling at the moment), our house forclosed, my grades took a dive. I just dont show my wrecked heart. sometimes I just want to cry my fing heart out untill I cant talk anymore. I have now realized I cant think of my old house, my only real place that I belong. If I could have anything in the world, it would be to go back to my old house, to my old house, fill it with my life and memories, and just take my baby blanket and snuggle up with my mom. but I know this will never happen, and Im crying extensivly now. is the middle school counsler qualfied to help me with my problems??? my dad can get me a real phycologist if I need one but please help

Ok so I have decided to try the counsler first then the Phycologist because most people reccomended the Phycologist- but what is it like? its kinda freaky because Im not sure I want to just open up to someone I dont know but I will do it- so what do you do in a session and how does it help???

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I know Im a jerk i dont even know what to feel. how bad did i break this girls heart?

this girl is beautiful inside out, trusting, kind to everybody and alot of people take advantage of that including me. prior to meeting me, she was raped by 3 guys.

we are highschool sweethearts. im a player ignored her, treated her like crap, used her for sex and money while having other chicks on the side. she was always kind to me, by my side when i went bankrupt, bailed me out of jail and always, always there for me. one day I realized i loved her and asked her for marriage over and over, she turned me down every time.

Finally she broke up with me, cut contact for nearly 1 year. I missed her but then i fell in love with another woman K. However, 6 months ago i found her on facebook. she sent me a message to "let it go" but i insisted to talk, lost in the moment i confessed my undying love to her. Bam then i was on two boats, i kept her on the side as a "bootycall" but led her on with forever promises.

During this time, my businesses went into debt. this girl took out 00 student loans without asking for it back to help me. gave me her paycheck when my family was in trouble. so i kept leading her on with sweet words till one day she discovered about my cheating. then i disappeared with the other woman K without an explanation.

she was outrageous and sent me many mean messages, then yesterday I got this,

"I sent you many hurtful messages because I was in pain. I never blamed you for loving someone else, we don’t choose who we love. But I can never forgive you for leading me on for sex and money. I truly loved you even when you were broke, sick, selfish and manipulative. You were my first love, I loved you with pure, pure feelings for who you are. When you don’t feel the same, you should have just walked away. When people use me for a few days, a few months, I can just say fuk them. But you, a man who "loves" me, who knows the person I am, the kind of love I had for you, played me for years and years, is unforgivable. I will never forgive you in this life, and life after life. You have hurt and scarred me for life. If everything is a game for you, then you won".

she kept on sending those sentimental messages i had enough

i said " fuk off. i feel sorry for u im gonna change a number"

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Can the credit card companies get my disability money like they garnish wages?
Will my credit clear-up in 6 year if I don’t file bankruptcy?
It has been 15 months since I have charged anything on any credit card account.It has been 12 months since I have paid on any of my credit card debt. It is well over 10 times the reported national average. My life situation changed dramatically. My old job was great money and I would be back in it in a heart-beat , if I could. Income from disability doesn’t cover the unsecured debt I have.
I hope to heal and someday go back to work; however, what looks worse a bankruptcy or bad credit? I need advice that will help pull my life together in a way that I can return to the mainstream without some creditor popping up to sabotage my attempts to become productive again. (next time without credit cards- I have made it a year and I am determined to go longer even though the idiots keep sending cards(with hugh credit lines) in the mail.

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My husband verbally abuses me in front of our child, he is ADHD and does not understand why his emotions take over. He has broken so many things in our home out of anger, he can’t keep a job due to his ADHD and he’s bankrupting us as he does not understand how to stop spending – he has never hit and I know he will not hit. We are both in therapy but I just can’t see how I can continue with his emotional abuse. His family refuses to be supportive as they too don’t like his anger. He has a very wonderful heart for our child and friends and when his emotions have not taken over he really is a great guy. ADHD adults tend to never leave there adolesences, so its like living with two children all the time. I know if I leave he will cry and hound me to not leave him but I know its best for my daughter and I. The only thing holding me back is that he will have no one to go to, I’m his best friend. I feel like his big sister. I pray for guidance but still don’t know how to do this…… my sign is Cancer and that equals – sensitive and always there for everyone – its so hard to let ask him to leave our home.
Any thoughts….
E. / Kentucky
Thank you to everyone who has replied so far. I’m glad I wrote to hear some outside advise. To those who mentioned my daughter is the one to think about – you are so right "she is the most important" and she will be the push that helps me to do end this. I don’t want her to live this way. I have great family support even when I asked him to leave 3 yrs ago. Thanks again!!

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