Does my husband have some kind of mental health or personality disorder?
Please no horrible responses; I am genuinely concerned.
My husband (47) seems to continually repeat the same things over and over again: it sounds daft, but it’s got worse over time (the last 10 years.)
He tells the same ‘jokes’ over and over which are very old jokes that he has told many times and laughs out loud at them, so much so that he has to pull off his glasses to wipe the tears from his cheeks at things that are not funny (and things he has said 100 times…) In addition, he repeats stories and tales from 10 to 20 years ago, (and beyond,) some which are wildly exaggerated, (especially when telling others… as if to impress or shock…)
And he tells me something that has happened, (at work or whatever,) some 5 or 6 times, until i say I KNOW this, you told me already… like 5 times! He must have told me his first single he bought and first album and how he and his dad went to the plough pub to pick up his mom every week and she was always late, 100,000 times….This is just a few of dozens and dozens of things he continually REPEATS over and over!
He only ever sings any one of 3 songs, and keeps continually putting Red dwarf and the i.t. crowd and the inbetweeners on dvd every day over and over….it’s like he has an obsession with the same 3 songs and the same 3 comedy series….there’s millions of other songs, and 1000s of other tv programmes and yet he is obsessed with the same 3 of each. I have started to leave the room when he puts this stuff on; I like them all, but it’s a pee take now.
He tells constant lies too..and he exaggerates hugely, and I think he believes the stories himself! He told people at work the other week that I had been severely ill and hospitalised, when I had had a 3 day cold! One of his colleagues saw me in town and said ‘I hear you were in intensive care…’ I just said meekly, er I am better now…knowing he had probably lied.
And he has had several occasions where he has made out he has gone and demanded money back on something and screamed and stamped his feet til he got his own way, and I found out later that he just bought another item and didnt kick off at all…He yelled at 3 kids for smoking in the street the other week, but when we saw 3 huge beefy black men smoking 10 minutes later, he said nothing. I said, ’say to them put yer effing fag out then!’ and he ignored me. Its like he could only shout at 5 ft tall 13 year olds, and not real men.
He also talks down to me sometimes as if I am thick and don’t know the simplest most obvious things…He acts like he SOOOO much more intelligent. He tries to give me instructions on things I have done 100 times… I just say ‘i don’t know WHAT I would do if I didn’t have you to guide me through life..and God knows how I got through the first 23 years of life before I met you.’
He makes out that he is the king at his workplace and the place wouldn’t run without him, yet he has been there 7 years and is still a crew member on 22.5 hours a week on minimum wage while people half his age have made manager after 2 years. He thinks my family are nasty common chavs and his were middle class and special, when his dad was sacked for the RAF for stealing and is brother has a criminal record for fraud!
He seems to have a massive superiority complex, but has nothing to back it up, no decent job, no qualifications, and his massive spending on materials items in the 1990s and early 2000s, (running up £50K debt) resulted in us going bankrupt because he couldnt keep up the payments…) Also, his family were really nothing….certainly no better than mine…. And his wage is so lame that we live partly on tax credits (we have 2 kids And I work 16 hours a week and I do EVERYTHING in the house including most of the childcare…)
He makes so much sh1t up…and believes it himself… I have caught him out in so many lies and wild exaggerations over the years, from saying he used to be a milkman, and a policeman and he used to own his own business, to lying about how women always used to chat him up when he was with his friends at the pub… it would take too long to explain, but I have found him out over the 25 years we have been together..
Even our 2 daughters think its odd how he always repeats everything over and over and sings the same 3 songs and tells the same stories and ‘jokes.’ And sometimes he just has a go at them for next-to-nothing; no reason at all, and talks down to them, like he is intelligent and superior..he doesnt have a gcse to his name and has spent his life working factories and at mcdonalds..
our younger daughter even asked me why dad doesnt work full time like their friends dads. He said he will get a better paid job, but within a week its as if he forgot the conversation!
Is there some personality disorder here?
Please don’t respond to this just to slag me off for ‘being nasty.’